So, rather than getting into Alice Miller right away I decided to deal with Alfie Kohn today. I started with his book, "Punished by Rewards", which discusses why rewards (grades, gold stars, salary bonuses or any other kind of bribes) are not good things - not in workplaces, not in families, and not in schools. Why? Five reasons, Alfie says:
1. Rewards are the flip side of punishment - we agree that we don't like punishment, but rewards are just as controlling.